Sunday, 29 June 2014

Appreciating the little things

I'm a very gentle soul at heart I think, Mike quite often smirks when I say this but I am really, in fact there is normally a huge guffaw from Mike but there we go! I actually have two persona's the work one where I need to be in charge & quite fierce & the nicer one when I am at home. Unfortunately for Mike depending on that day I have at work it might take up to an hour for the gentle home side of me to come out, hence the guffaw!

I enjoy gentle pastimes, I like knitting & crochet, I have started cross stitch & embroidery & sewing again, & of course I adore my garden! I like to bake & make jam. I adore the process of planning for Christmas, which has started in earnest, I am allowed to mention it as we are now closer to this Christmas than the last one!  I used to go to Church on a Sunday morning but haven't been in over a year due to dealing with my parents. Unfortunately both my parents are rude, obnoxious & selfish people, & that I am there to solve any problem they have! I realised from a very young age that I never wanted to be like them which is quite sad really. I'm very fond of reading posts over the closeness most people experience with their parents & I know it is something that my children & I will always share. Saying that though my parents have been very good grandparents, my sister & I often joke that they only had children to become grandparents!

I have made a huge effort in the week to do a house work job or two after work each evening. This is working out very well & is leaving me with a little more free time later on in the evening., I still struggle to catch up with blogs though! I do quite often have a sneaky look in work!





I was sat at my little garden table last week & the above photos are of the views I had around me! Just walking through the French doors & stepping into my little garden I can feel the stress start to drain away. Especially at this time of year, when there are plenty of things to harvest. This afternoon I will be gathering broad beans, carrots & potatoes from my garden to go with the lamb we are having today! I may even be able to provide a bowl of strawberries too, if the boys have left any!

I'm actually quite grateful to have my little garden & my craft stash which is not so little. I appreciate having a job that I am good at & having the option to work from home when it suits me! I appreciate having Mike & the children, who have made me a much better person over the years. I appreciate having my blog & the lovely people I speak to through it. On the whole I lead a very charmed life & I know I have the strength of character to get through any problems that may come my way.

My sister dislikes going to see my dad by herself so either Mike or I will go with her. I will be gritting my teeth & chewing my tongue at 11 am this morning when I go with her to see him, he doesn't misbehave when I'm there as he knows he can't get away with it. I shall be thinking of my little space above all the time while I am there along with the cardigan I have started to knit, some creations for the swaps I am taking part in, my crochet blankets & the possibility of making some Black currant jam, I will be having a good day today!

As always I hope you enjoy yours. xx

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  1. Gardens and plants are such therapeutic things. I generally spend more time outside than in, but if I have been cooped up getting out to walk the dogs through the woods and fields is so restorative. Hope things are OK with your father today x

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    1. I even find myself sitting outside with my crochet/knitting, the very act of being outside is very restorative to me. Thank you it went surprisingly well!

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  2. I hope that things go well for you today Joanne and that you can enjoy this afternoon collecting your veggies and cooking dinner with YOUR family at home. I admire you greatly for going to visit your Dad on a regular basis and still caring for him despite the difficulties that you have to handle. Thinking of you. xx

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    1. It went surprisingly well thank you Amy with both of them, the collecting of veg was the finishing touch. I could never not go & see either of them, we always try to visit each at least twice a week & have them both over several times a year for Sunday lunch. Thank you xx

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  3. There's nothing like a bit of craft and garden therapy. Hope things go ok with your dad today; when you get home, take a big deep breath in that lovely garden of yours. Dinner sounds lovely! Have a good week.
    Jane x

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    1. Oh yes they very things that makes everything OK! It went surprisingly well. Dinner was divine, I'm planning the same next week too! Hope your week is a good one.

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  4. Loved your post, like you I love my garden, craft and my daughters are my world. One step into my garden after work and every thing falls into place. Hope you enjoy your lamb lunch with home grown veg. Families can be so hard, glad to hear your sister is a friendly spirit.

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    1. Thank you, I'm the same the stress just falls of me! Lunch was divine & we had huge fun collecting the veg. Yes families can indeed be very hard & I'm lucky that I have my sister to share the troubles with me.

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  5. Do enjoy the blessings offered by your lovely garden Jo, and I hope things go well with your visit with you Dad today. I am sad for you that circumstances are as they are and wish for a more loving and caring relationship among you all before it's too late. Sometimes though, we just have to accept things as they are and make the best of them - you seem to have the ability to do that, and I congratulate you on that quality - I know it's not easy! xoJoy

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    1. I do Joy I am truly thankful that I have it. It went surprisingly well thank you & unfortunately the situation will never change. I'm also thankful that now as an adult I can deal with it in my own way & they both have to follow my rules so to speak. Thank you so much for your comment Joy you are very sweet & kind. xx

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  6. Your garden looks lovely, when you get back from the visit go out there and take a few breaths. That ought to help destress, I hope the rest of your day helps to get the real you out on top.

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    1. Thank you Pam, that is exactly what I did & had huge fun with my family collecting home grown veg. It did the soul a lot of good!

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  7. NO - you are not allowed to mention the C word 'til December 24.

    I'm sorry that you don't get on with your parents both my parents died in their 60's and I miss them.

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    1. I only whispered it Sue briefly : ) I do love the planning of it though!! One of those things unfortunately I'm so pleased that you got on with yours & I'm sorry they are no longer with you xx

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  8. Life isn't all like 'The Waltons' is it...deal with it the best you can,then step into your paradise and enjoy.
    Jane x

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    1. Your are very right! I'm glad as an adult I have adjusted well enough to be able to cope with all the problems my parents cause & paradise is never far away!

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  9. I sympathise as family relations can be difficult. I agree with Sue in that you are not allowed to mention Christmas yet!
    It's good to see that you appreciate the right things in your life, especially the garden, which is looking good.
    Flighty xx

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    1. I whispered Christmas Flighty only ever so briefly but it is getting closer & closer :), yes you must look on the brighter side of life if you are able to & the garden certainly helps with that. Thank you.

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  10. Well they do say you can choose your friends but not your relations! I fall into the category that has good family relationships, both in immediate family and cousins but I know of people like yourself that have to accept a difference of outlook with their families. Sometimes life's like that. So glad you can enjoy the therapy of being in your garden, Joanne. I feel the same about 'my' garden, even though I'm overlooked by flats and it's not actually my garden!! Wishing you a good week! Caro x

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    1. I'm so pleased you have a good relationship with yours & I am truly glad that most people do. Life is indeed sometimes like that. Having the garden is a pleasure I relish greatly. Hope you have a good week too!

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  11. It's such a shame that you have such difficulties with your parents, it would have been all too easy to carry on the same way with your own children so it's good that you recognise the joys of a happy family life and are providing that for your boys. I hope today has gone well and enjoy those delicious veggies with your roast lamb, yum yum.

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    1. Such is life Jo, yes both my sister & I made a conscious decision when we had our own children that things would be different. Sunday went surprisingly well thank you & we had huge fun collecting the veg for dinner.

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  12. I enjoyed your honesty in this post. I can really identify with being a "gentle soul" but not having the people around me see that in me. I'm sorry you have such a difficult relationship with your parents, but how wonderful that you have parented in different way.

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    1. Thank you so much for your comment, a conscious effort was made a long time ago for my children to be brought up in a different way. Fingers crossed it has work, they are happy, honest & open which is what I wanted for them. xx

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  13. many thanks for sharing I can understand a lot of what your saying I more ways than one have a blessed week

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    1. Thank you Linda, I know you have mentioned something similar before in a comment. Take care & I hope your week has been a good one.

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  14. Your garden is looking lovely. I understand what you mean about others not seeing it in you. I have a similarly difficult relationship with my parents. I don't discuss them on my blog, as it is an unhappy situation. I'm sorry you deal with something like this. I'm glad to hear yours are good grandparents, as mine as not. I hope you have a good week. If you ever want to talk about this stuff, you can always email me, I'm happy to listen and support you.

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    1. Thank you, I'm sorry you have issues with your parents too. It saddens me greatly to see so many obstacles being put in the way. I don't go into great detail on my blog & mine were re educated shall we say on how to behave as grandparents, saying that one grandchild refuses to speak to my mother due to her rudeness & actions. Thank you so much for your comment, it was a very kind & thoughtful way to end it, it is truly appreciated. xx

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  15. Blessings to you, and thank God you have your garden to go to when your parents are horrid to you.
    How strange for them to be like that, but we are all different.
    Hope the sun is shining in your corner and your beans are singing in the rain. They love it.
    Take care
    Chris x

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    1. Thank you & yes the garden is the ideal place to go to de stress. We are indeed all different. Thank you so much for your comment,

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  16. The garden is my little bit of heaven, where I go to escape. I don't know what I'd do if I didn't have it. Take care Joanne x

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    1. I feel exactly the same which is why I am so grateful to have it, as small as it is! Hope you have a good & squirrel free week!

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  17. Your garden is so very pretty I can see why you love to spend time there.

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    1. Thank you, I've made quite an effort with it this year & it is looking good!

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  18. You know what...I know that we would be friends if we lived near. The things that you listed about what feeds your soul is what I cherish too. I got a chuckle out of the 2 sides of you!!! Glad you have that pretty garden to come home to! It is inspiring!!! Wishing you a happy week! Nicole xoxo

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    1. Oh you are so sweet, I would love it if we lived closer to each other! Feeding the soul with good wholesome activities makes you a better person, I have to have two sides as I really do have to be super scary in work! Have a super week Nicole & thank you ever so for your comment.

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  19. I am so sorry that your relationship with your parents is not easier. That must be really tough. I have realised over the last few year that the small things must be cherished and appreciated, it's the only way to stay sane! x

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    1. Thank you life is life I suppose. To be honest the issue is ignored most of the time. I agree with you about the small things & keeping sane, it certainly helps.

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  20. Family life isn't always pink and fluffy, is it, and I think probably we all need to have that special place or person or activity which just helps us to breathe and recharge. Well done on the housework, btw. That's something I struggle to keep up with and I don't go out to work!

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    1. Indeed it isn't, I get by with it just fine though. Do you know I am becoming a proper little housewife my husband is rather worried about how much it is going to cost him.

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  21. Lots of progress on your garden. Really green right now. Hey... I like the long flower clusters. Are they Delphinium or Foxglove?




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    1. Yes lots this year Endah, I have been making a real effort! The long flowers are foxgloves, they are nearly over now but I shall leave them like that for a couple of weeks so they can self seed.

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  22. I do love sharing your garden, thoughts, feelings and hobbies with you. But I think what I really love is the fact that you make me realise time and again how lucky I am to have been blessed with the parent that I have. Thank you and enjoy your days in the garden.

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    1. Thank you, you're very sweet! I'm glad you have a nicer set of parents as people should do! xx

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